Hello everyone! I hope you are all doing well, this weeks post is on a topic that can be pretty heavy and that can have multiple approaches/views on it. I’m sure a lot of us have endured the pain of a break up and whether you are the dumper, dumpee or it’s a mutual thing it can still be a pretty painful process. Despite this there are definitely some positives to a break up even if it doesn’t feel that way at the time.
I think I have definitely found in myself, especially in my most recent relationship, I gave him a lot of love, time and energy. I gave a lot of myself and put it all into one person, which I was more than happy to do. But now I am single I have found that I still have so much of this love and energy that I can now invest it in my friendships and more importantly I can invest it in myself. I believe the most important relationship in anyone’s life is the one they have with themselves so now I really have time to nurture, love and find myself. I think the term ‘finding myself’ can be made into a joke so easily but I really believe now I have time to focus on myself I can find who I am as just me, just Lauren.
I think being single has given me a push to put myself out there more, to be more open and confident. Not that I had ever been put down by the person I was with, I think he did just the opposite actually and filled me with a lot of confidence. But because I was comfortable I never felt the need to push myself out of my comfort zone whereas now I feel as though I can and I just don’t care anywhere near as much as I did before. I feel as though I have become very carefree recently and I am just going at life with whatever it throws at me.
I think being single will allow you the time to figure out what you want and what you deserve in another relationship, when the time is right again. I can say that I know I settled for less in the past because I was a lonely, insecure teenager but now I have a clearer understanding of what I want and the time I have now on my own can just reaffirm that for me. I won’t settle for any less than I deserve now and I can use this time to just enjoy being me.
I assume most people reading this will be around my age, young adult/teens, because most people that follow my blog are around that age. Meaning we are all so young! Despite how heartbreaking it can be at the time, these are your prime years (very cliche but true). You have no ties to anyone or anything and can decide to put yourself and what you want to do first, whatever that may be.
I hope you enjoyed this weeks post and I hope I brought some comfort to anyone that needed it. Thank you so much for reading.
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